Today’s blog is in response to one of our fitmixer Boot Camp friends. As she watched our introduction video, she became emotional when she realized there was more to her feeling good than eating right and exercise. She commented, “I’ve literally tried everything to lose weight, but I cannot get in that right state of mind to make it click.” My blogs are going to educate, coach, and support you with tools to make it click.
It starts with recognizing your thoughts. Your thoughts come from two places. You were born with a natural state of well-being, peace, and joy. You were born with an amazingly intelligent body that is always working on your behalf for perfect health. It gives you messages to communicate its needs. You also came with a built-in guidance system to help you direct your thoughts – they are called “feelings.” The body and feelings are directing you to positive thoughts, which come from your source. Meaning, a state that is perceiving love, peace, and harmony. You can recognize that purity in children. They love their bodies. They will suck on their toes, and even feces. To them there is nothing wrong with a single thing about their body. They are chubby, have dimples on their bottoms, cankles, and are constantly snotty, dribbling, and poopy – and they’re loving it! They run, jump, play, explore, laugh, dream, imagine, cuddle, show-off, and tell the truth. This is our natural state; who we are, how we can always be. The message from this mind is pure love and acceptance.
Then there is the “world’s” mind. It’s very different. These beliefs and thoughts were given to you. They are judgmental and negative by nature. They are competitive and full of lack. They place a value on what you DO and how you LOOK. You didn’t choose these thoughts. They aren’t yours! They aren’t personal, which means they have nothing to do with you. They happen to you without your management; just like breathing and digestion happens, thoughts happen.
The gift of your built-in guidance mechanism called “feelings” lets you know if you’re in your natural right-mindedness or the world’s wrong-mindedness. The feelings your thoughts create are either stress or peace. If you are feeling stress, you are not on your natural path to peace and well-being. You are suffering, which is not your natural state. It is a dysfunctional state, even though it is considered “normal” by worldly thinking.
I want you to observe the thoughts you have. Recognize when they are predominantly negative and judgmental. Be aware that your thoughts write fictional stories filled with drama, that make you victim to others and circumstances. When you are seeking happiness from a person, event, or thing that is outside of you, or something you achieve, gain, or earn, the loss of these same things take your happiness with them. Try to not make unconscious agreements with everything you have been taught, or with every thought that comes up. I want you to get into the habit of questioning your thoughts and asking if they are true or not. When your thoughts turn to attacking, blaming, judging, or being critical of yourself or others, your warning indicator is activated in the form of bad feelings. Negative feelings reveal that we are not on our natural path to love and joy (i.e. the path to having what we want).
Then is your opportunity to go back and CHOOSE a thought to replace the original one. You get to exercise your powerful freedom to think another thought, or at least drop the negative one so it no longer causes bad feelings. You find you are no longer a slave to these things that go on in your head. You start to become the master of your mind and let its amazing powers work for you, instead of against you. When we give these unconscious thoughts so much validity and focus, we think we are our thoughts. We are then under their spell, just like a possessing entity that tells us what to do and how to feel, and we obey because we believe it is who we are.
So, start with your words. The words you say are powerful creators. If you say that you are fat, dumb, clumsy, old, tired, overwhelmed, or unappreciated, you are absolutely making those ideas true. If you say that you are beautiful, bright, capable, youthful, energized, and loved, that will be your experience.
I had a few “ah-ha!” moments that proved this point. The other day, as soon as I walked into the grocery store, I was bathed in the smell of glazed donuts. I thought, “I have to have a donut or I might die!” I then stopped and thought, “That is a funny thought that I just believed was true. Let me go inside myself and check in.” I went inside to see if my thought was true. I discovered that I was actually quite satisfied physically, and that if I ate a donut I probably wouldn’t feel very good afterward. I had a lot to do that day and didn’t want the sluggish feeling that would quickly accompany the completion of this “idea.” It was liberating to know that I am not a robot who has to move as my thoughts direct. I can choose another thought like, “No, I actually don’t want a donut because I’m not hungry. I can have one when I am, but it probably won’t feel as good as something more nutritious and substantial. So, I’ll see when the time comes.” That thought was much more believable and accurate.
I also remember thinking my boyfriend didn’t want to be with me. If he tried to touch me, I would say, “You don’t have to do that just to make me feel good.” I would focus on my perception that he hadn’t touched me in a while. Not surprisingly, after a short time he did stop touching me and didn’t want to be with me because I was behaving so poorly. I realized that because I thought my story was true, it was coming to pass. I had to decide if I should focus on what I wanted, instead of what I didn’t want. Knowing how I focus is going to be my experience. I decided to drop the negative thought, and began to focus on what he was doing to show me love. That made him feel successful and appreciated as my boyfriend, which made him want to spend more time with me.
I give you these two examples to urge you to notice your thoughts and words. Stop complaining! Stop judging! Stop noticing what is WRONG! Stop believing your thoughts are reality! Then, choose again. Go for love, appreciation, compassion, kindness, understanding, abundance, and the Golden Rule (“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you”). Keep choosing peace, flow, and harmony. Notice what is working, what is right, what is good! Give yourself a break. Have a sense of humor about who you are, and know you are not your thoughts. You are so much more than these little ideas. You are as you came. Love, beauty, joy, peace, freedom, oneness, playful, happy, and light! And REMEMBER to share the mind of love!
– Love Robin (this is a call sign, not a sign-off )